Female Orgasm: Clitoral Stimulation

The clitoris (clit) is primarily a sexual organ made to be stimulated. It is only one of many parts of the body that can be stimulated in ways that give sexual pleasure. As I have mentioned before, experiment with many different methods of stimulating the clit or for that matter all parts of your body. He may use his fingers, thumb, palm or anything you can think of.

You can also try different movements such as up and down, side-to-side, circular and pressing at all different speeds, rhythms and intensities. You may find the clit too sensitive to stimulate at times or unresponsive at others. I think it is safe to say that that your reaction to clitoral stimulation can at times be directly related to your level of desire..

Whether it be fondling or intercourse, experimenting with different types of rhythms and intensities may ultimately lead to having a clit orgasm or becoming so aroused that you are able to have other types of orgasms with little effort.

On Top
While lying on top of your husband during intercourse with your knees bent, try as many different combinations of rhythms and intensities as you can think of. You may sit upright so he can see and enjoy your facial expressions or massage your breasts. You may want to lie flat or switch back and forth from flat to upright. Without thrusting in and out during intercourse, use your hips as a pivot to slide forward and backwards. As you slid forward and back, try different speeds, slow and fast. Also try short and long slides at different depths of the penis.

 Remember, the G spot is just a couple inches inside the vagina, so deep might not always be better. You may need to put some lubrication on your clit and/or on his pelvic bone right above the base of his penis. Also try putting lubrication on any part of your body that is touching his, especially your inner thighs and his upper thighs. It may seem slippery at first but it can also give you a lot more freedom with your movements. While sliding, concentrate on rubbing your clit against his pelvic bone. You must experiment with as many different speeds, penis depths and pressures as you can to find out what works best for you. You may be surprised at how slow, hard and shallow you can go while getting maximum pleasure. You may also be surprised at how fast you can go, but be careful not to tire yourself out while going fast.Again, I encourage you to experiment.

You may find that being consistent with a certain type of motion in a certain position is best for you. In other words, if a certain rhythm in a certain position feels good, then keep doing the same movement over and over letting the sensation build into an orgasm. If something feels good but then starts to subside, don’t give up, just try a different speed, rhythm or position.

You may want to give it a rest every once and a while and let your nerve endings recuperate, so to speak. While resting, slide his penis at least half way out so when you go deep again it seems like a fresh sensation. Allow your spontaneity and passion to continue with deep kissing and/or embracing. I am sure you can think of something while resting. You may find more times than not that rest is absolutely necessary in reaching higher levels of pleasure. Orgasms can be described as subtle, tingling sensations in one area of the body or complete body spasms with screaming, scratching and gasping.

Contrarily you may find yourself completely unable to move, breathe or talk during an orgasm. You may find yourself having multiple, yet very slight, orgasms before a big one. Whatever type orgasm you have whether it be small orlarge, enjoy it. Now take everything I have talked about in this chapter and apply it to all different types of lovemaking and other types of orgasm. I know I keep repeating this, but some of you need it.

Experiment, experiment, experiment. Enjoy your body, enjoy his a husband and wife are sharing themselves and enjoying themselves through sex, it is pleasing to God who is the creator of sex,love and peace.

Clitoral Orgasm

The amount and type of nerve endings in the clitoris (clit) are equal or more than that of the head of a man's penis. Imagine the same number of nerve endings all bunched together in that one little spot. An easy way to find the clit is to cup the vaginal area with the tips of your fingers pointing down, locate the vagina opening with the tip of your finger then slowly slide the same finger upward toward the belly button. As you slide your finger upward try to feel for a small separation of skin called the clitoral hood. The clitoral hood is a fold of skin that covers the clit. When a woman’s clit is sexually aroused, it becomes flushed with blood, making it swell and hard to the touch. During orgasm the clit may give a feelings of tingling, throbbing or pulsating.

There is an infinite number of ways to stimulate the clit, which can become so sensitive it may cause discomfort or the feeling of having to urinate. Since all women are different, experiment to find the best ways to stimulate your or your lover’s clit. Keep in mind that responses and desires of sexual stimulation of any degree may depend on the mood.

The clit can be rubbed fast, slow, soft, hard, up, down, left, right, in circles or any combination, using any finger, fingers, mouth, tongue, palm, penis, pelvic area or whatever else you can imagine. Once highly sensitive, just a little touch can go a long way. You may find that constant, applied pressure is all that is needed. Some women like the same type stimulation over and over, while others prefer something different every once and a while. If your communication during sex is good don’t be afraid to express what you like or dislike or ask what she likes.

Many different techniques can be used during oral stimulation.

It can be sucked gently or aggressively, nibbled or just kissed. I encourage you men to try anything and everything, while being sensitive to the responses of your lover.

Clitoral orgasms come in many different intensities and durations. One may sigh with pleasure for a second from one small orgasm or scream and moan all night from multiple clit orgasms. Some women may ejaculate, what seems like, a tremendous amount of hot, milky white substance from their urethra during an intense orgasm, which could be embarrassing to both partners, being that it could be mistaken for urine. Female ejaculation should never be viewed as an embarrassing moment. It is a climax of sexual pleasure just like male ejaculation. The ejaculated liquid is usually odorless and will dry into flakes, easily brushing away from most surfaces, including skin. If a woman does become embarrassed because of female ejaculation,

I encourage men to assure their lovers that they are happy for the experience and are looking forward to it again. Men, don’t ever negatively comment on female ejaculation to your lover because it could cause severe psychological dysfunctions.

Female Orgasm: Attitude

Attitude and desire need to compliment each other. You can have the desire but if your attitude is negative or focused on other things, you may be missing the whole parade. For instance you may desire to make love to him but if you are more concerned about what he is or isn’t doing during lovemaking or you can’t quit thinking about the kids or if you’re doing it right in his mind, you have the wrong attitude. 

 

Allow yourself to enjoy each moment. Some of you may have to go through a major adjustment to have the right attitude. Since our minds are prone to do things by habit, it may take some time to readjust how you think when making love. Don’t be surprised if you find it a little frustrating at first. 

 

I know this may sound cliché but you must communicate anything that you cannot answer yourself. Share with him your concerns or needs. Communication may initially have an opposing affect by causing an argument, but it should ultimately be beneficial. 

 

Techniques for Women

Everyone is different and there are so many different ways to make love, so many different ways to experience sexual pleasure that no one can say to another, “…just do steps one, two and three and you will enjoy sex and have an orgasm.” So read the following and allow for your own creativity to flow while you imagine yourself doing things that suit your own personality.

 

Many times readers have told me, “It seems like a guy would know certain things, are they really that dumb?” I have to admit, yes, guys are pretty dumb when it comes to making love to a woman. Oh we know how to have sex, but make love, foreplay? Foreplay may be your single most important key in getting through the door of sexual fulfillment. Sad to say that men consider foreplay something they do to get a woman to have sex rather than something they do to fulfill a woman. Think about it. If a man can have sex with his wife without working for it with foreplay, is he going to do all those wonderful little things that build a woman’s desire to make love? It is easy for men to become selfish and go straight for intercourse. 

 

If this is the case, you may have to do one of two things, but probably two since most men are so hard headed. One, tell him you want to take time before intercourse with fun and sexy foreplay and two, take matters into your own hands and direct the events of foreplay either by asking for certain things or doing them yourself. 

 

Remember to always communicate during lovemaking when changing positions or trying new things. People tend to use mental telepathy, which can make sex frustrating. Go ahead and say it.

 

Fawn Analogy

 Let’s use what I call the Fawn Analogy to experience an orgasm. Once you read the “Fawn Analogy”, give it some thought, try it during love making, then stir up your own imagination for your own type of analogy. A fawn is a young deer and can be very loving yet timid. The fawn is your pleasure and contact with the fawn is fulfillment. If you desired to find a fawn and make contact with it, you would have to go to a place where a fawn would be, the fawn’s atmosphere. And if you wanted to play with the fawn you would have to have the right approach or attitude. Once you are in a place where you see the fawn you may have to stop and allow the fawn to get use to your presence and become curious enough to come to you instead of you going to it. So what does this have to do with having an orgasm? If you have never had an orgasm or desire to have more intense orgasms, you may use the Fawn Analogy as an approach. Once you feel the building of sexual pleasure, allow the pleasure to build within itself. You may have to patiently wait for the pleasure to cycle with an ebb and flow type motion such as the tides of the ocean, or just as a fawn might do when approaching a stranger.

 

 The fawn may get close to you but then drop back and circle you before it makes contact. And when it does make contact, any sudden change can cause it to flee, making you have to begin the whole process again. 

 

In time the fawn will grow and become more mature and your experience with the fawn will be more fulfilling. Once you and the fawn become more familiar with each other, contact will be easier and more fulfilling, but the atmosphere and your attitude will always have an affect on the fawn (pleasure) and the fulfillment (contact with the fawn).

Female Orgasm: Female Orgasm Hindrances

ust as I have dispelled the issue of male stamina for men, I would like to, in a similar manner, dispel the mysteries of the female orgasm for women in the next two chapters. What I am about to teach you does not involve masturbation or unrealistic fantasies. Rather, I will first discuss how one may be hindered from such wonderful experiences, then we will move to the next chapter to discuss technique. First, let me list, with a little explanation, what I believe are some of the most common hindrances that keep women from having orgasms or enjoying sex. Later, I will go into detail about how to deal with some of these potential hindrances. As you read the list you may be reminded of something not mentioned that might need your attention. Hindrances of Female Orgasms 1. Full Bladder – This doesn’t include all women because some may feel more sensitive with a full bladder. Experiment with a full bladder and an empty one. If you have consumed a significant amount of liquid you may have to go to the bathroom a couple of times during sex. 2. Full Colon – Many women suffer from constipation, which can be a mild or severe discomfort, especially during sex. Herbal teas, enemas and other laxative are usually helpful in cleansing and purging the colon. 3. Infections - Aside from the discomfort or odor caused by bladder or yeast infections, such as the constant feeling of having to urinate, these hindrances can cause one to be more concerned about the discomfort than the matter at hand, sex. 4. Enlarged Labia Minora - The labia minora, which are two flaps of skin between the clitoris and vaginal opening, may get tucked or pulled into the vagina during sex causing discomfort or pain. The size and enlargement of the flaps may be dependent on genetics, childbearing or thrusting without lubrication. Some women may have unevenly sized flaps just as men have unevenly sized testicles. The tucking or pulling during sex is nothing a little lubrication can’t take care of, but some women resort to having the excessive flaps of skin surgically removed giving the outside of the vagina a dramatically youthful appearance and no more worry about discomforts during sex. Consult a reputable physician for more information and always view before and after portfolios of their work if you consider surgery. 5. Hindering Thoughts – Worry, concern, guilt, anger, resentment, embarrassment and the list goes on. We will go into great detail about being in the right frame a mind to enjoy sex. Hopefully it will be much easier than you think. 6. Misaligned Spine – Just one little vertebra in your spine could pinch a nerve hindering normal nerve response anywhere in the body. If a pinched nerve can cause one’s leg to go numb then it can cause other parts of the body to have similar problems. Severa signs of a misaligned spine can be tingling sensations, sharp pains, numbness, headaches, pressure or squeezing types of discomfort around the spine and stiffness. A reputable chiropractor can better educate you and help you with any adjustments you may need. 7. Hormone Deficiencies – Your hormones will mediate your sex drive which in turn may determine your interest in sex and may play a role in the ability to have an orgasm. I certainly recommend having your hormones checked at any age. 8. Anticipation of an Unrealistic Expectation - What do I mean? You may be looking for the “Grand Finale Orgasm” when you need to enjoy the “Parade” and other activities that may lead to a Grand Finale. We will talk more about expectations, desire and attitude later. 9. Problems With Him - Your man may have an anno ying habit or condition that you feel inhibits your abilities to enjoy sex. We will talk about some potential problems and ways to deal with them. Bladder ------- Always empty your bladder before sex especially before G spot stimulation, which could cause extreme feelings of having to urinate. With an empty bladder you can be confident that the feeling of having to urinate might be because of the G spot. If G spot stimulation is new to you and the feeling of having to urinate is overbearing, I suggest doing a little planning. Try putting a towel under you so if you do leak a little urine the towel will catch it. This should give you added security and enable you to let go of any concerns. Once you have made it through the urinating feeling a couple of times you will know what to expect and have less concern of leaking. Colon ----- Colon problems, such as gas and constipation can be a little more complicated than just going to the bathroom real quick. A full colon could cause bloating which is an evil word to a lot of women who can become more concerned with looking bloated than enjoying sex. Sex may feel uncomfortable at times in some positions with colon problems, as if something is being poked or pushed by the penis. If Herbal remedies, laxatives and enemas aren’t working, you may want to have your yeast levels checked or you may be lactose intolerant, which means you have a problem digesting dairy products. If your body produces an overabundance of yeast in your colon, the yeast could entwine like a rope inside your colon. High sugar diets, bread and diary products will make things worse but products such as Lactaidä can be used as alternatives. Some people may have twists or kinks that hinder normal digestive flow. Check with your physician about some of the things I have mentioned and always get a second or third opinion especially if a doctor suggests surgery. Infections ---------- Women can have topical and internal infections including, but not limited to, some of the more common infections such as urinary, yeast, ovarian and cervical. Infections such as urinary and yeast can cause irritation, strong odors and yellowish discharge. Keep in mind that white colored, vaginal discharge is usually healthy and normal especially if it has little or no offensive odors. Symptoms of any vaginal infections may cause more of a mood irritation than anything else. Feelings of being unclean and embarrassed can cause lack of confidence and self esteem which may hinder your ability to enjoy sex. Cranberries and cranberry juice, not cocktail or from concentrate, may help with urinary infections. Always, consult your Gynecologist for treatment with any infection.

Female Orgasm - Introduction

The female body is capable of experiencing eight types of orgasms that I know of. Some women may be able to experience all eight and some may never experience any. Never expect a woman to respond in a certain way to sexual stimulation. Unfulfilled expectations could damage confidence, self-esteem and become embarrassing to you and her, resulting in a deathblow to your relationship. Some women have never experienced any orgasmic pleasure from any stimulation. An unresponsive woman does not necessarily reflect problems, though it could. A woman may have a weak PC muscle, hindering her abilities to enjoy sex to its fullest. Some women are just not responsive to sex but all are responsive to love. Some women may find it frustrating and have tremendous body spasms if you pull out suddenly while they are experiencing an orgasm. This is due to the fact that the exchange of energy between two lovers is abruptly interrupted, causing the orgasmic energy to violently surge through her body as it looks for a channel to flow through. She may be unable to speak or express her “mini trauma” verbally until the energy subsides. A couple of things that may help is to put your penis back in her, hold her passionately or cup your hand over her vagina with pressure on her clit. She might not let you touch her because of the sensitivity of all the energy bouncing around in her body. Actually it can be quite humorous to experience such a thing. Unless you realize what is happening to her she will just lie there with a funny look on her face like she is getting mildly shocked. Five of the eight different orgasms are by stimulating a specific body part; clitoris (clit), vagina, G spot, anus and mind. Yes, men and women are both capable of experiencing orgasms to all degrees, including ejaculation by thought stimulation of the mind. Though all orgasms originate from the brain, an exclusive mind orgasm is different in that it stems from only thought, but can involve other parts of the body. Many women have reported that they have had orgasms, just by thinking about sex. The mind is a powerful thing and if you know how to use it to your advantage, there are no boundaries to what you may experience mentally or physically. You and your lover should practice letting go and allow yourselves to actually experience your fantasies with each other. A total body orgasm can follow any one or a combination of the different types of orgasms. During a total body orgasm, a man or woman may feel electrified throughout their entire body, usually causing body spasms such as jerking, shaking, or doubling over. Moaning, screaming, panting and gasping can all be results of full body orgasms. Some may experience such extreme sensitivity during this type of orgasm that further stimulation could cause too much pleasure resulting in an uncomfortable or painful sensation. Hot flashes, chills and female ejaculation may also occur. Remember, an orgasm is simply a feeling of pleasure and does not have to include ejaculation for men or women. Ejaculation may be the result of an orgasm.