Female Orgasm: Attitude

Attitude and desire need to compliment each other. You can have the desire but if your attitude is negative or focused on other things, you may be missing the whole parade. For instance you may desire to make love to him but if you are more concerned about what he is or isn’t doing during lovemaking or you can’t quit thinking about the kids or if you’re doing it right in his mind, you have the wrong attitude. 

 

Allow yourself to enjoy each moment. Some of you may have to go through a major adjustment to have the right attitude. Since our minds are prone to do things by habit, it may take some time to readjust how you think when making love. Don’t be surprised if you find it a little frustrating at first. 

 

I know this may sound cliché but you must communicate anything that you cannot answer yourself. Share with him your concerns or needs. Communication may initially have an opposing affect by causing an argument, but it should ultimately be beneficial. 

 

Techniques for Women

Everyone is different and there are so many different ways to make love, so many different ways to experience sexual pleasure that no one can say to another, “…just do steps one, two and three and you will enjoy sex and have an orgasm.” So read the following and allow for your own creativity to flow while you imagine yourself doing things that suit your own personality.

 

Many times readers have told me, “It seems like a guy would know certain things, are they really that dumb?” I have to admit, yes, guys are pretty dumb when it comes to making love to a woman. Oh we know how to have sex, but make love, foreplay? Foreplay may be your single most important key in getting through the door of sexual fulfillment. Sad to say that men consider foreplay something they do to get a woman to have sex rather than something they do to fulfill a woman. Think about it. If a man can have sex with his wife without working for it with foreplay, is he going to do all those wonderful little things that build a woman’s desire to make love? It is easy for men to become selfish and go straight for intercourse. 

 

If this is the case, you may have to do one of two things, but probably two since most men are so hard headed. One, tell him you want to take time before intercourse with fun and sexy foreplay and two, take matters into your own hands and direct the events of foreplay either by asking for certain things or doing them yourself. 

 

Remember to always communicate during lovemaking when changing positions or trying new things. People tend to use mental telepathy, which can make sex frustrating. Go ahead and say it.

 

Fawn Analogy

 Let’s use what I call the Fawn Analogy to experience an orgasm. Once you read the “Fawn Analogy”, give it some thought, try it during love making, then stir up your own imagination for your own type of analogy. A fawn is a young deer and can be very loving yet timid. The fawn is your pleasure and contact with the fawn is fulfillment. If you desired to find a fawn and make contact with it, you would have to go to a place where a fawn would be, the fawn’s atmosphere. And if you wanted to play with the fawn you would have to have the right approach or attitude. Once you are in a place where you see the fawn you may have to stop and allow the fawn to get use to your presence and become curious enough to come to you instead of you going to it. So what does this have to do with having an orgasm? If you have never had an orgasm or desire to have more intense orgasms, you may use the Fawn Analogy as an approach. Once you feel the building of sexual pleasure, allow the pleasure to build within itself. You may have to patiently wait for the pleasure to cycle with an ebb and flow type motion such as the tides of the ocean, or just as a fawn might do when approaching a stranger.

 

 The fawn may get close to you but then drop back and circle you before it makes contact. And when it does make contact, any sudden change can cause it to flee, making you have to begin the whole process again. 

 

In time the fawn will grow and become more mature and your experience with the fawn will be more fulfilling. Once you and the fawn become more familiar with each other, contact will be easier and more fulfilling, but the atmosphere and your attitude will always have an affect on the fawn (pleasure) and the fulfillment (contact with the fawn).